Charis Lapsley-Blacka

November 15, 1964 - December 9, 2020

On Wednesday, December 9th, 2020, the beloved Charis Blacka, 56, of Norfolk, Virginia, passed away after a short illness. Charis struggled with many battles throughout her life. She fought hard, loved fierce, and lived life on her terms. This last battle, however, was too much for her body to conquer, though she tried valiantly. Left to cherish her memory is her son, Chandler Blacka, of Virginia Beach, who she loved more than life itself, and many friends and family members. Forever in our hearts.

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Tammy seymour posted on 12/20/20

Charis - I will miss you , so much . I will miss our cooking dinners together ( monthly ) , listening to our jams , our deep conversations and the many laughs we shared. You were a great friend , with such such a sweet soul. Love you , my friend.

Deborah K Sinclair posted on 12/15/20

I am just overwhelmed by the news. I met Charis in Newport News before she moved to Norfolk. I know she loved Chandler with everything in her. She was a fighter and may her spirit rest in peace.

Ashaunti Hundley posted on 12/15/20

I am so lost for words; Ms Blacka, your yo-yo is soo sorry she hasn’t been there. You were/are by far one of the most amazing people I met in my life, and I’m so glad I got to meet you and enjoy time with you before you were called home! Chandler, i’m so sorry, please send me whatever info I need to be in attendance for you and your mom, I appreciate y’all very much for being there for me and sticking up for me. My condolences to the whole blacka family, but especially to you Chandler. RIP Ms Blacka

Mary V Cross posted on 12/15/20

How can I breath now that you have gotten your wings. Charis you were like a big sister to me and I loved everything you did. Now that you are gone I'm glad that we spend the time together and had fun together. Much love to my adopted nephew Chandler your always in my heart much and take care adopted Auntie Mary V. Cross.

Donna and Gretna Smith posted on 12/15/20

Chandler, Gretna and I are so very sorry for your loss. You are and will be in our thoughts and prayers.

Michelle Heath posted on 12/14/20

We were such great friends back in the day. I am glad we were able to reconnect. RIP my dear friend. I know how much you loved Chandler and I know you will watch over him. RIP girl. I love you!! XOXO

Nana Margie posted on 12/14/20

Love you

Lori Sherwood posted on 12/13/20

Charis, who's gonna call me "Uggs" now?! I have so many memories with you, from childhood to adulthood, all to be cherished. I truly love you and will miss you. I'm hoping you find peace. Chandler, you know you were your mothers heart and life-saver!

Margarita Montgomery posted on 12/13/20

R.I.P. Charis Blacka I miss you soo much, we had many ups and downs but we never lost our love for each other. Chandler will be just fine, Nana Margie has his back. I love you

Patricia Sherwood posted on 12/13/20

Chandler, I was a nextdoor neighbor of your mom's when she was born. I am Lori'mom. Although we lost touch with sweet Charis not one day did i not think of her and wished i could talk to her. Her smile could melt snow. She is pain free and I know in the arms of her Maker. I remember Lori climbing fence to go over to Mrs Moore's and poor Charis never could climb that stupid fence to come over our house. We would have to go and help her over. She was so funny. We use to laugh so much about things all in love, Pat Patterson Sherwood

Angela Riddick posted on 12/12/20

Chandler, I just want you to cherish the memories of your Mom and know that she was a beautiful person. When I first joined the team that she was on at PRA, she always made sure that I understood my job, wanted to share her food, made me laugh, but most of all she talked about the most important person in her life and that was you. Your mother loved you to the moon and back and I loved her as well.

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