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Darlene Lee Hayden

September 30, 1958 - August 4, 2020

On Tuesday, August 04, 2020, Darlene “D” Lee Hayden, of Hampton, transitioned from her earthly life of 61 years into her eternal life with her Heavenly Father. Darlene was a beautiful, kind, loving, compassionate, independent Christian woman with a quick wit and sense of humor, who devoted herself to serving others through her church.

Darlene was born in Arlington, Virginia on September 30, 1958, to parents, Jess and Barbara Collins. She lived in Northern Virginia for over forty years until her move to Hampton, Virginia, which brought her closer to the ocean where she loved spending her free time.

She loved her Lord, life, family and friends, cats of all sizes, the waterside, palm trees, “bling”, music, Ford Mustangs, cooking and baking, gardening, seafood and homemade tacos, Christmas, and even the color orange.

Darlene spent her adult working life in the fields of telecommunications and civil government contracting before retiring.

Darlene was a long-standing active member of First United Methodist Church Fox Hill. She cherished her church family, the time and fellowship spent there, and serving others through the work of the United Methodist Women’s Evening Circle. She especially loved the time in the children’s nursery, serving as usher, working with the food pantry and the annual pumpkin patch. She tried to help out in as many areas of need as possible. She valued the time with her sisters and friends of faith.

Darlene is preceded in death by both parents; both fraternal and paternal grandparents; numerous Aunts, Uncles, and cousins.

She is survived by her sister, Deborah Palmer and husband Richard, niece, Stacy Palmer and her three sons, Brandon, Justin and Jacob; her son, Shawn Collins and wife Hannah, and two grandsons, Bennett and Silas; Aunts, Phyllis Kent, LaWanda Brothers, and Kathern Ballentine; as well as numerous cousins.

Darlene’s wishes are to spend eternity among the seas, so her ashes will be spread among the water at a later date.

In lieu of flowers, we all know how much Darlene loved her church, animals, and helping others, therefore, all who wish to honor and celebrate her life are invited to donate to First United Methodist Church Fox Hill or your local Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (SPCA) or St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital.

She was loved by many and will be missed by all those that had the fortune of knowing her smile and gentle spirit.

Love and miss you little sis, until we meet again!


“I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die.”

John 11:25


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