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Lynwood "Butch" Henry Costley

January 10, 1946 - December 22, 2020

Lynwood Henry Costley, 74, passed away Tuesday, December 22, 2020 in Norfolk, Virginia surrounded by his loving family and friends.  Lynwood affectionally called (Butch) was born January 10, 1946 to Blanche Costley-Grimes in Newark, New Jersey.


Lynwood (Butch) was committed to his country and promptly enlisted into the United States Navy at his earliest opportunity (17 years of age) on March 14, 1963.  Upon his enlistment (Butch) was assigned to the USS Charles F. Adams (DDG-2), based in Charleston, South Carolina.  Commissioned on 10 September 1960 and stationed in its homeport of Charleston, South Carolina. The USS Charles F. Adams was intended as a follow-on to the Forrest Sherman-class destroyers, the ship was originally designated as DD-952. Outwardly like the Forrest Sherman class, Charles F. Adams was the first U.S. Navy ship designed from the keel up to launch anti-aircraft missiles. To reflect the increased capabilities of the ship and to distinguish her from previous destroyer designs, Charles F. Adams was re-designated DDG-2 prior to the ship’s launching.  Of interesting note, following the commissioning of Charles F. Adams, Lynwood and the crew of Charles Adams took part in recovery operations for Walter M. Schirra’s Mercury 8 mission. While engaged in this operation, the Cuban Missile crisis developed and Charles F. Adams moved to the Caribbean Sea as part of the quarantine forces around the island of Cuba. In July 1969, Charles F. Adams left her homeport of Charleston and relocated to Mayport, Florida.  Lynwood Henry Costley (Butch) would serve aboard the USS Charles F. Adams from March 14, 1963 until January 17, 1967.  In addition, Seaman Costley would also earn both the National Defense Service Medal, and Armed Forces Expeditionary Medal, with 3 years, 4 months, and 15 days of Foreign and/or Sea Service.


Shortly after returning home from Service, Lynwood (Butch) met the love of his life, Carrol Elaine Roundtree (living just next door) while attending a family function.  Shortly after, Lynwood and Carrol married on September 21, 1968.  The Costley’s union brought forth three children, Earrol, Calvin and Shawn.  Butch was certainly all about family and caring for others, he was always known for his big smile and ability to bring everyone together.  A master craftsman, he was a MacGyver of his time possessing the ability to construct anything with the most limited resources. But more importantly it illustrates a point. His craftsmanship was about quality, passion, and experience. He built a family and made things he wanted to show to others. He built a long and extended family that he was proud of and wanted nothing more than a family legacy that would outlast his time.


Left to cherish his memory is his wife, Carrol; (3) children Earrol, Calvin, and Shawn; (10) grandchildren Asha, Treasure, Shamonique, Roshad, Damani, Shawn Jr., Ebony, Ayanna, DaShawn, and Anthony; (5) greatgrandchildren Eniiyah, Christian, Elisia, Princeton and Avery; (2) Daughter-In-Laws Tasha and Nneka.  In addition, his Sister, Effie Thomas-Grimes, a host of cousins, brother-in laws, extended family, and friends.


A private visitation was held on Tuesday, December 29, 2020 at Altmeyer Funeral Homes and Crematory- Southside Chapel (5033 Rouse Drive, Virginia Beach, VA 23462). Butch will be laid to rest at Albert G. Horton Jr. Memorial Veterans Cemetery with honors, alongside the other patriots who shared interest in protecting the country they love. The date is scheduled for Monday, January 11, 2021 at 11:00 AM. For those that cannot attend, the family invites all who wish to be virtually involved to click the following link at the time and day listed for the service to witness the rendering of military honors Butch deserves. Please CLICK HERE to watch.

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Time: 11:00 am


Albert G. Horton Memorial Veteran Cemetery

5310 Milners Rd.
Suffolk, VA 23434

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