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Soren Arn-Oelschlegel

September 10, 1980 - October 8, 2021

For anyone who had the pleasure of meeting Søren Arn-Oelschlegel, it is known that he has danced to the beat of his own drum since the day he was born. In true Virgo fashion, Søren entered the world on his own schedule. As the story goes, during birth, he got hung up in utero for hours and as a result, eventually required forceps to be pulled out by doctors. Finally, On September 10, 1980, at the sunset of Rosh Hashanah, Tim Arn and Betty Jane Oelschlegel welcomed a beautiful, healthy boy in Norfolk, Virginia. The story of his birth perfectly illustrates how Søren was always able to make a lasting impression on anyone he met.

Growing up, Søren split his time between Hampton Roads and Ocracoke, North Carolina. Ever the hard worker, Søren landed his first job as an ice cream scooper for his mother’s shop in Ocracoke—The Slushy Stand—in 1994. After a summer of scooping ice cream, he purchased his first car, a diesel Cadillac. Every summer, while on break from Chesapeake’s Great Bridge High School, he was the first friendly face thousands of tourists would see as they flocked to the local favorite. With an enormous personality and a strong business acumen, it came as no surprise that Søren quickly worked his way up to a managerial position. Though his time at The Slushy Stand came to an end when he moved to Norfolk, VA in 2000, it was during those pivotal years that he developed the skills needed for the next stop on his journey.

If you knew Søren, you knew how much he loved cars. After moving to Norfolk, he took his love one step further when he ventured into the world of car sales with a position at RK Chevrolet in Virginia Beach. It was there that he honed the customer service skills that would later aid him in a successful career in real estate.

From 2003 to May 2021, Søren served as the office manager for his father’s home inspection business, Home Spec. He often joked he got to “retire” at the young age of 40. While he enjoyed his time working for his father’s business, it was in this season of life that he discovered his next big move: becoming a real estate agent.

In 2015, Søren took the real estate market by storm and became a full-time agent. While he may have gotten through high school “kicking and screaming,” he aced his real estate license exam without any problems. Growing up with a mother in real estate and a father in general contracting and home inspection, by becoming a realtor, one could say Søren was continuing the family business. With multiple awards under his belt for his stellar work as a realtor, he definitely lived up to the family name. And in the process, continuously strived (and succeeded) to live up to his tag line, “Unusual Name, Uncommon Service.”

Outside of his love for cars, Søren had an even deeper love for travel. After graduating high school, he embarked on a journey around the country (including Hawaii) making stops to visit family and friends along the way. A few years later, he made a month-long trek throughout Europe and while in voyage, made an impact on everyone he met.

To know Søren is to know that he never met a stranger. His infectious smile and personality lit up any room he entered and instantly made you love him. In Europe, he met and made new friends who guided him along his journey from country to country. For the past 16 years, he traveled to the Caribbean every Christmas with his mother, brother and sister. He looked forward to the trip every year and was grateful for every new memory made.

In November 2019, Soren met and began a lifelong journey with his partner Daijreous Poole. Their time together was brief, but they shared a love that rivals the greatest of fairy tales. Although their time in this life may have come to an end, their hearts will forever be intertwined and their love will last for eternity.

On Friday, October 8, 2021, Søren Arn-Oelschlegel transitioned from this life, leaving the world a little dimmer without his light. He was predeceased by his paternal grandfather Edward C. Arn; his maternal grandparents, Margaret J. Oelschlegel and Lawrence S. Oelschlegel; and his first cousin, Rob Kell. He leaves, to celebrate his life and cherish his memory: his parents, Betty Jane Oelschlegel, Tim Arn, and stepmother Sandi Arn; three siblings, sister Ellice Arn-Oelschlegel, brother Lasse Arn-Oelschlegel, and sister Hannah Lankford (Ben Lankford); his paternal grandmother, Patricia Jane Arn; a host of treasured cousins, aunts, and uncles; and his beloved partner, Daijreous Poole.

In a world full of stars, Søren’s shined the brightest. One of his favorite quotes can be used to highlight just how rare a gift he was to all who knew him and how much he loved and encouraged those around him to embrace their full self:


‎”Today you are You,

that is truer than true.

There is no one alive

who is Youer than You.”

– Dr. Seuss


His memorial service will be held at Altmeyer Funeral Home – Southside (5033 Rouse Drive Virginia Beach, VA  23462) on Saturday, October 16, 2021 at 3pm.


There is something truly special about building on someone’s legacy. The family of Soren Arn-Oelschegel would like to extend the opportunity to support those causes that Soren held dear by sharing the following ways in which you can be part of his life’s legacy of kindness, respect, and hope for a better, more inclusive future. In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to the following organizations:

Hampton Roads Pride – Soren Arn-Oelschlegel Scholarship Fund at: Enter the note: “Soren’s Legacy” to donate to this restricted fund.

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) at: and dedicate in memory of Soren Arn-Oelschlegel with recipient email address:

The Trevor Project at: and dedicate in memory of Soren Arn-Oelschlegel with recipient email address:


Service Information

Service Information

Date: Saturday, October 16, 2021

Time: 3:00 pm


Altmeyer Funeral Home - Southside Chapel

5033 Rouse Drive
Virginia Beach, VA 23462

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